Is Online datring a good thing?

    

    Kyle Hamilton

 Online dating is a revolutionary way of meeting new people. It has slowly forced it’s way into the everyday life of single people. At first online dating was a very foreign way of meeting new people and looked like it was going to be a fad that society would eventually fade out. Surprisingly it did the opposite and growth to be as popular as it is today.   

     I think that online dating can be successful or turn out horrible depending on how and what sites or apps you use. If a person sticks the more structured dating site such as eHarmony or Farmers only they will be a lot more likely to find a person that is worth dating. The reasoning is that a person normally has to pay money for these more legitimized sites. The fact that the users of the sites have to pay money to meet other people makes the users take the site more serious. Unsuccessful online dating could be due to people not taking the online site serious. For example I made a Tinder account to see what all the hype was about and tried communicating with a few people and the results surprised me. I logged on to Tinder expecting to start a simple conversation and get to not some people. I quickly found out that Tinder is more of a "hook up" app. Within Ten minutes of being on the app people were already asking to have sex with me. This app turns out to be nothing as I expected.  Another thing I noticed about Tinder was that the users start a conversation with each other based solely on appearance. This make self-presentation extremely impotent because it’s the only way for a person to attract anyone on Tinder, Compared to other online dating site such as eHarmony that matches the users based common interests personality and some self-presentation.

      In order to start a successful relationship through online dating I think a more legitimized site would be best. Through personal experiences  I have seen a few online relationships play out and only one has been successful and this relationship started on eHarmony. The other relationship I witnessed were short lived and ended up being "hook ups".

     One of the largest benefits of online is that shy people can be more open. An article I found online talks about how there is less pressure, less chance of being embarrassed, and more people. This sets up shy people to flourish when it comes to online dating. For example if a shy man wants to ask an attractive women out at a bar, he would have to worry about getting rejected and having to see her face to face. Online dating takes the embarrassment factor out completely. If one is rejected online they can delete that person and never come in contact with them again. It’s not that the embarrassment isn't there it’s just not open to the public and easier to forget about.   

      In the end I think online dating is a good thing can be a successful tool if it’s used properly.  In the future people will be more adapt to online dating. The website will also develop further benefiting the users more. I think online dating will only grow in popularity and maybe one day even take the place of normal face to face dating.


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